1 – Make their cup of coffee in the morning

2 – Carry in the groceries

3 – Make them a Spotify playlist

4 – Offer to schedule doctor appointments or make long phone calls

5 – Fill their gas tank

6 – Surprise them with a food delivery while they’re at work

7 – Replace the toilet paper

8 – Respond quickly when they ask for a favor/task completed

9 – Learn to cook their favorite meal

10 – Start their car before they leave so it’s nice and warm (or cool)

11 – Ask “how can I help you?”

12 – Bring them a hot towel after a shower

13 – Complete a household chore that they typically do

14 – Pack them a lunch

15 – Vacuum out their car

16 – Massage their feet or shoulders

17 – Put the kids to bed

18 – Research issues that are important to them/the family

19 – Wipe the snow off their car in the morning

20 – Tidy the bathroom

21 – Walk the dog

22 – Fill and run the diffusers

23 – Vacuum the house

24 – Ask “would it be helpful if I…”

25 – Text them in the morning that you have dinner covered

Is this a list of things my husband does for me? Pretty much.

Do I expect that he’ll do these things every day? Nope.

Does him doing some of these things without being asked take a huge weight off of me and help me feel immensely loved? Yep!

If Acts of Service is a bottom love language for you it might seem overwhelming to add any more “tasks” to your day. I get it. You might feel at your breaking point some days and incapable of completing a task for another person. That might not be the day to attempt some of these bigger items. If your partner’s top love language is Acts of Service they will feel if you’re doing the task out of obligation versus love.

A person doing something for me with a bad attitude about it is much worse than them never doing the act at all.